Why it's better to meet guys the real way, rather than through dating apps

Remember back in the early 2000s when internet dating was a brand new experience and people weren't really sure what to think of it? Some people were afraid of it while others were open to trying it. I was in the group that was open to trying it and started pretty early on. Unlike others I just saw it as another way to meet guys. You had a profile you could look at and if you liked what you saw then you would message or wink at the guy. You'd spend some time chatting and then if they were "worthy" you'd arrange a time to meet up in real life. As with anything, the date would either be really great, or completely crap and you'd potentially see eachother again. If you were lucky then it would turn into a relationship.

Well fast forward a few years and Tinder, the dating app is the new version of internet dating. It is nothing like what internet dating used to be though. Instead of messaging a few times first, it's straight to the chase of wanting random hook ups and basically there's just no effort anymore. It's way too easy to swipe left and to "unmatch" from someone. Politeness has gone from dating and it seems to be nothing more than a numbers game.

That ignores the fact that profiles aren't even completely filled out. How can you know you want to meet someone if they haven't taken the time to fill out their profile? How can you know if you'll even gel and get along in real life? The simple answer is that you can't. You're going in blind and it's not like at a pub where you can get to know someone in five minutes because on Tinder people can choose what to say and what not to say more easily. Basically, it's less genuine and it's more fake.

So how exactly do you meet guys without using Tinder? If you're in your late 20s or early 30s it's nearly impossible if all your friends are in relationships or married. Most people in these age brackets simply don't like to go out like they used to and have become what you would have deemed boring when you were 18. It's one thing to have responsibilities such as work and bills, but to stop having fun is just silly.

Dating apps are useless if you want to meet guys with similar interests because as I mentioned, around half of them simply don't bother filling out their profile so how can you know if you want to talk to them? For the record, if a guy doesn't have his profile filled out, which takes all of two minutes, then I simply don't bother. The same goes for guys who send one word messages. A one word message is quite simply lazy and comes across as unfriendly and anti social.

The only real options for those who are still single is to join clubs. If you love sports then join a sports club, whereas if performing is your thing then join an acting club or start taking acting classes. Not only will you learn more about your craft you'll also hopefully meet singles and if you don't then the chances are that your classmates will know some singles and what's even cooler is that they'll likely have the same interests as you.

There's a lot of stigma still around going out alone but if you love music and live performances then go by yourself. At the very least you'll end up seeing a great band or bands and best case scenario you could find yourself meeting a guy with very similar interests to you.

Basically, despite what the MSM says, dating apps are absolutely pointless because the only guys who use them are overweight/obese, have severe issues or can't even string a sentence together. It's better to meet guys in real life than waste time with dating apps. The guys who do use dating apps tend to be really boring and only send messages such as "how are you?" and don't really share their interests, and it's just offputting because if you can't find a common ground then how can you strike up a real conversation?

Maybe as people have aged towards their late 20s to early 30s they've lost their passion and spark and don't actually have any interests, in which case, as I mentioned, Tinder is pointless because those aren't the types of guys I'd want to know anyway.

So I guess my question is, why do people lose their passion and spark when they reach their late 20s or early 30s? What exactly happens? This isn't really that old yet it's like they've lost their fire.

I don't know about you but I can't be bothered with Tinder. I'd rather meet guys the real way, through experiences rather than silly dating apps that are filled with time wasting, boring losers who have no interests and can't even string a sentence together.