The politics of a one night stand

Over the last few days I've read numerous articles about Tinder and the accounts from the guys who use it.  Basically in a nutshell it's a brothel for guys who don't want to pay for sex and the women who use it are open to being used for sex.  Bare in mind the majority of these women would probably NEVER ever support prostitution and would probably say women should have higher standards.

I'm going to criticise both the men who use the app and the women who do.  When a woman allows a man to disrespect her and just use her for sex and is over the age of say 22 she is saying that women should be objectified and that we're nothing more than sex objects.  Women who let men use us say that we're just bimbos without brains.

Sadly that transfers to the media.  How many times do you see a smart intelligent man on the radio or television alongside a bimbo who is literally just there to look pretty.  Think Janicker te Allen on the Paul Henry Show in NZ and several other shows in Australia.  It's very subtle but it's definitely there.

If women are portrayed in media as being bimbos then that actually translates to the workforce where men, who are generally the holders of management positions can't handle smart intelligent women, and yes, I'm actually sorry to say that I have faced discrimination for being a woman in the workforce, and for being a smart woman no less.  Recently in fact.  I was also told by this person who showed sexism towards me to just find a job to pay the bills and forgo my ambitions.  I've had this other times recently too, and it's not just men showing sexism towards women, it's also women who are sexist towards other women.  Sexism is why Nadine Chalmers Ross has never been promoted to co host New Zealand's Breakfast programme.  She is simply too smart and because she's not a blonde bimbo like Toni Street, she will never anchor a show because apparently smart women aren't wanted.

Then when we have sexism in everyday life and the media that translates to politics and we end up with a scenario where older men control the situation and because women are like children, should be seen and not heard, any attempts to change this are quickly quashed.  Look at the treatment of former Prime Minister Julia Gillard.  She was smart yet she was ostracised by the Labor Party because of that very fact.  The powerbrokers within the party couldn't handle a smart woman being in power.

So next time you want to have a one night stand and be used by a guy, think about the greater consequences, by doing so you're just reinforcing stereotypes that women are bimbos who aren't allowed opinions or brains.